forget her or next steps?

[stepan]

Hello everyone. I was fortunate enough to discover the PUA community 6-8 months ago and I have got to say it definitely has set me on a different path. I have been doing great with girls that i have not met before, but when the occasion came with one of the hottest girls in my school, I just fucked up. I hope that you can bear with the AFC tale i am about to retell, and perhaps give me some advice.


She is a year younger than me, so the first time i saw her was when my Phys ed class shared the same room as hers. I did flirt with her and sensed that both of us liked eachother. I didn't think of pursuing it further until I was just walking with my friends down the hall, I smiled at her and she suddenly came out of her class and said in a flirting way , so what do you want? The very next day I got a rose, did the same thing, and when she came out, I told her to say that again and then i told her i wanted her to go out with me on Sunday etc.(Gotta say it was pretty romantic xD) She said she kinda had a boyfriend, but i pulled the I’m not interested in your boyfriend, I’m interested in you line and she said yes....


....Now comes the epic fail...


I didn't have my phone on me so I couldn't get her number, so I did get it two days after but i was kind of weird about it. Than I was going to call her on Saturday, and i thought her phone was off.. I called her compulsively believing that it was off, so she wouldn’t get it. it turned out that she just had it at home... Then she calls me back, I seemed to talked pretty well, until she said that she wasn’t available that day. Than i just asked every other day, making it seem like i wasn’t busy. She says she will call me back in a minute. She calls up, hangs up quickly, than i call back (shouldn’t have done that) and she says she has a boyfriend.....Well i think both of us knew this.... But I wasn't going to get any crazier so I thought I would just ask her like a week later. I did but then she just gave the phone to her boyfriend… This definitely was a bitch move so I thought I would just forget her.


After that, her friends just started talking to me out of nowhere. There was an occasion when I was talking to some of my friends, which she did not know about math, and she just walked all the way from the other side to make some mundane conversation. She always talked to me etc. I guess i wasn't able to handle rejection well so i just couldn't get myself to speak normally, just using shrugs and yes and nos. Just when her friends started talking to me though i knew that she had broken up with her bf, but again i did not pursue further.


I would like to believe that i developed substantially since then, but it just keeps lingering in my mind. I wanted to hear your opinion on what i should do next. Is it a lost cause, or should i try one more time. If i should, I really don't know how to go about it.

[damha21]

Classic Oneitis. Bro you're me in high school haha. I know how you feel but some major concepts you need to realize:

- No such thing as failure. You move on.
- Don't fuck with BFs. Both cause not many are that good (i'm not, you gotta be crazy like Durden). And it's a risky situation, especially if you'll be seeing a lot more of her and her friends in the future. See in high school (idk if you are don't tell me, just say whether its a small or big school), you're locked into a community. It can end badly.

But this is what you gotta do, delete the number. Move on, if you have to put work to get out of a hole its a lost cause. If you put work to climb the mountain its worth it. You feel me? or does the analogy not make sense (idk i just came up with it).

[rebel41]

"Move on, if you have to put work to get out of a hole its a lost cause. If you put work to climb the mountain its worth it." - That is beautifully put, I like that alot.

A) You can just forget her.

OR

B) You can still try to get her, you will probably choose this option, cause I know how you probably think. Note though, BF or recently broken up IS tricky. If you try again, you can't be afraid to get your ass beat. Plain and simple. Thing is, it seems like you called her alot and put alot of advancement pressure on her. Did you find out she was single now from her directly? Did she tell you she broke up with him? If not, you should pretend you still think she is with dude. Hang out with her casually, call her "bro" and "dude". That takes off some of the pressure of you hitting on her. Make it seem as if that instance when she got her boyfriend to talk to you on the phone turned you off. Important: You MUST talk to other girls and try and get with them. If she is hanging out with you, and you still just focuse on her, it puts too much pressure on her and you don't want that. If you talk to other girls, even her friends, even just casually, a little jealousy notion ticks in her brain. Even if she isn't into you.