Texting her when you #close

[rebel41]

I had this idea the other day lemme know if you guys think it's good. When you get a #, like I did today I was going to employ this:

Wait 1 or a couple days. Then text her saying, "Sorry I couldn't text you earlier I've been really busy." Then follow up with whatever, "What's up?" or "What are you doing tonight/tomorrow?"

A) You don't text her the same day so you don't seem desperate.

B) You've been busy, so you seem like a guy who does stuff and is important.

C) You don't specify about when you were supposedly thinking about texting her. So she can't pinpoint how much into her you are.

D) You can't seem like the jerk who waited too long to contact her cause you apologize about not doing it earlier.

Seems like the way I will go with all #closes from now on, I don't really see a flaw.

[damha21]

In my opinion this is one of the hardest aspects of the game.

I don't worry about how long to wait anymore. If they have a shred of interest in you, they won't think you're being aggressive. I'll text just to say whatup or remind her of something funny that happened before she dropped in her digits in my phone (within hours of it happening, no inviting or planning w/e).

I like B) and C). D) is good, you let her know you got other shit to deal with besides her. But recently i have become a firm believer of CALLING the girl. Texting is good and all for short convos, but those get you nowhere really. Even if voicemail comes up leave a message. A short message by voice, is a lot more personal (and confident for that matter) than a text.

[rebel41]

Well, I tried it. She gave me the number Thurs like 6ish pm and I texted her that Friday like 9 pm. She didn't respond so I left it at that. It's Monday now, I was thinking about texting her tomorrow. It's not oneitis but I would like to make SOME effort. Either that or I could just wait till next time I see her at work which could be a couple weeks though.

[damha21]

Well yeah, its not oneitis unless you can't function normally (like i can't get any work done...maybe not that severe for others idk). But of course you put work or effort. I have to, but I like to draw some effort from the other side you know. Call her, if she picks up know what you're gonna say and make sure you end the conversation aka hang up. I mean lead her into a convo, do what you'd normally do if you were talkin face to face. If its voicemail, leave a short message like I mentioned before...

other option, go about your business as usual. Game other ladies at parties, clubs, wherever you usually go. If she contacts you, then you got yourself a day 2 brotha.

[Tarzan]

I'm totally against apologies in any aspect of the game. That's just me though. I see it as a weakening factor...

I don't think too much when I'm texting HBs. Typically just stick to the cocky funny routine. I've got a formula though... I posted a thread not too long ago about it. Basically avoid answering questions with distinct answers and avoid asking too many questions. If you stay vague, with just a little sliver of your personality shining through, every single time she texts back, it's an IOI.

Conversations through texts are easier to stop than conversations on the phone. If she doesn't want to talk to you, she won't text back.

Remember though, there aren't that many chicks out there that will initiate communication for a day 2. They want the dude to do it.

[damha21]

You're right Tarzan. But don't send two consecutive messages in whatever form they might be call and a text, 2 texts, an email and a text, w/e. So if he already texted her, don't do it again unless she responds. Well if its been 3 days, idk. I take the easy way out and just move on. A flaw of mine haha

[rebel41]

Yeah Tarzan might be right about not apologizing. The vague thing is good too.

I didn't text her again or call her. I might actually work with her on Sat night, I'll find out tomorrow. If I do I can just act nonchalant or whatever. Flirt with the 17 year old hostess that loves me and cracks up at whatever I say right in front of her haha.

[Tarzan]

Right on. There was a chick at the place I used to serve at. I flirted with all of the girls there, usually in front of her. Eventually she started talking to me. And eventually we went on a date. Rest is history.

I love gaming in the workplace. There are pawns EVERYWHERE

[chris toms]

I like to send this one out about half hour after closing her in day game.

'Hey Katie, was randomly quirky running into you earlier, are you always that friendly to strangers ?