Actualy I need an opionion about situation.

[holy_snoop]

I've dated an HB 7-8 for 3 months and we've broke up because she got with her EX into a cab because he got kicked the hell out in a club by the manager and the sec. staff.

So she called me for like every day or two last 3 weeks and I finally answered. Said she wants to talk with me so I was like ok...we'll talk then I F again.

So we've been at a party(01\01) we...well kinda were suppose to see each other after the party.

Happens to be she was there with her best friend(girl) and few guys.
we've talked for a minute or so then I left for a coffe to wake up after work and she said she would stay with her friend there.

I went for like 15 minutes. The moment I came back she was kissing other guy. Same day she called me said there was nothing like this and its a total lie and after some time she gave up. Although she would never blame herself on that and said she was drunk and she know she did a terrible thing.

well...what I did in that case was to make her in my mind a SB and move on. Told her ofcourse that we are going to be friends and stuff...and somehow I forgave her for that.




Now I what to know what you guys think about that and what would you do in that case? We technically weren't together to that point so I forgave.

[hawknbj]

It is time to move on. You have to show her that she can't keep playing games with you, because right now you have little value in her mind. Go meet some new girls and make sure she knows about them, then her mind will fill with jealousy and she'll be all over you; you have to put yourself in control... never let a girl push you around like this.

[Brock Landers]

Move on. You need options so you don't seem weak or Beta in her eyes. Sounds like u had a little bit of the oneitis for her.

[AngloRoman]

hey man,

i'm not sure if I completely understood all the facts, take your time and write a little more clearly in future.

However, speaking personally I have been where you are and I do know how it feels.

The first thing you need to ask yourself is what you ultimately want form her. You said she wasn't your girlfriend, but I'm suspecting that was your intention. I would also suspect you feel this way because at this point you have only one option. This is the first thing you need to change.

Any other PUA would automatically tell you to go out and lay several other women and then ask yourself again if she is really the girl you want. It certainly wouldn't be wrong to do this, considering you've caught her red handed with another guy. Make some more contacts and see if you can open up some more options. Go out with a couple of friends, PUA or not, have a great time and get talking to people, male and female.

Consider the following: Would you tolerate a date making out with another guy if you didn't have feelings for her (which in this case obviously you do)? Would you accept this kind of behaviour from a girlfriend? If you would answer either of these questions with no, I suggest you reconsider her importance. There is an interesting article on "one-itis" on this site I suggest you read. I would also read up as much of the beginner's material as you can. Ultimately with all women, this one included, you should structure your game so that in your head she is chasing you, as this will naturally rub off onto her.
She now believes that you are trying to win her over and it is for this reason that she is taking the piss out of you. In future, don't give women the opportunity to do this. You are the prize to be won, not her.

I hope this response is helpful and I wish you the best of luck in your quest for whatever it is you're looking for. Please post another response to this thread and keep me updated on any developments.